We have all had periods of feeling low, lost, scared, unbalanced or alone. Hopefully, we have also all had times when the reverse is true and we feel connected, hopeful, well and in grace. When we feel disconnected from the world, it is hard to find a way to reach out to others who are seemingly in love with life, totally at peace with themselves and able to flow with challenges and events as they occur. The feelings of fear and insecurity build when we feel cast out, inferior, patronised or judged and the distance between those who seem to live from love and those who seem to live from hate appears bigger and harder to bridge.
Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we learn. The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and prejudices and the acceptance of love back in our hearts. Love is the essential reality and our purpose on Earth. To be consciously aware of it, to experience love in ourselves and others, is the meaning of life. Meaning does not lie in things. Meaning lies in us.
– Marianne Williamson
So what can we do for one another to foster a sense of connection and encourage openness and unity and wellbeing? The answer seems to be that when we see someone is suffering we make it our job to remind them of the strength, power, wisdom and resilience they possess. That we see them as an equal member of the human race. That we stay true to our wellbeing while encouraging them to recognise and honour their own.
Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive.
– Dalai Lama XIV
We need to accept each other’s humanness, remind ourselves that everyone is born of the same energy that creates and powers the universe and promote wellbeing by opening ourselves up to those who are suffering. We need to make ourselves available to those who are lost and refuse to participate in a rhetoric of of fear and hate. Instead we must remember that we are all in this together, one energy, one consciousness, one love.
Not only do self-love and love of others go hand in hand but ultimately they are indistinguishable.
– M. Scott Peck
Every one of us has at some point engaged in behaviour we are not proud of because we were innocently acting on feelings of fear and hate and insecurity. When we understand those feelings to be a result of a misunderstanding of our place in the world and our true selves, we see that we have acted out of suffering. When we recognise that others who are acting on feelings of fear and hate and insecurity are suffering as we once did, we see common ground. We understand that we are all at the mercy of our experience until we find a better way of living. We break down our walls, rescind our boundaries, open our hearts.
The more you know yourself, the less judgemental you become.
– Aniekee Tochukwu Ezekiel
This is not to say that we condone or ignore wrong acts but rather that we do not lose our connection to our wellbeing and wisdom when dealing with them and their perpetrators.
Peace can be made only by those who are peaceful, and love can be shown only by those who love. No work of love will flourish out of guilt, fear, or hollowness of heart.
– Alan Watts
Nothing has ever been made worse by kindness. Let’s each of us shine our light for those in darkness and see in them the wellbeing and wisdom that they have forgotten they possess. Let’s have faith in humanity and act on hope. Let’s hear the struggle of those who feel disenfranchised and forgotten and let’s offer them understanding and compassion.
We treat love and hate and the other emotions like they are all on the same level, but they’re not. Hate, fear, lust, greed, jealousy – all that comes from the ego. Only love comes from the soul. When you identify with your soul, you live in a loving universe. The soul loves everybody. It’s like the sun. It brings out the beauty in each of us. You can feel it in your heart.
– Ram Dass
The only way we can heal our world and keep it well is to stay true to the knowledge of wholeness that we have uncovered within ourselves. Love is the only path to health and wellbeing. Rather than stray from this path to react to fear and hate, let’s remain on it and make room for those who are suffering to join us. Only when we let them know that they deserve love and wellbeing will they open up to a healthier way of living and consider a more fulfilling approach to life that works towards building a better world for us all.
Love is the answer. Let’s stay in the feeling of love and ask others to meet us here.