We have to take part in the world, it is the only way for us to exist. Even if we live in ways other than those that society dictates to us are right, we still need to interact with other people and engage with the world. So how do we do this and stay grounded, feel safe within and remain true to our core values?
The truth is that we are all the result of programming and conditioning and whilst we work to uncover who we really are and shed the layers of false identity that we have created and come to identify with, there will be times when we react from insecurity, ego and defence mechanisms.
The best way to deal with this is to do the work to find out who we really are, understand the triggers for our ego and begin to explore our reactions to them. We feel our way through life but until we trust that we have the wisdom and innate knowledge to navigate it well, we often misread our emotions as signals of distress and a call to action rather than messages that we are moving away from truth and wellbeing.
Creating a life that expands us is our best means of staying grounded most often because when we begin to investigate the identity we have come to identify with and the beliefs, opinions and biases associated with the constructed self, we are better able to stay grounded when we take part in the world and recover and rebalance more quickly when we don’t.
Being grounded, centred or rooted in the true self allows us to read our emotions as signals of how closely aligned we are in the moment with our wellbeing. If we feel defensive or anxious or frustrated, we are able to stay grounded if we understand these emotions as signs that we are not experiencing a clear perspective in the moment and are instead reacting from the ego.
This does not mean we don’t have boundaries in place to keep ourselves respected and safe in the world but that we communicate, behave and navigate it most successfully when we remember that we are whole and safe within, that we are not lacking and that our wellbeing can never be damaged or diminished.
Staying grounded in who we really are means giving up the thoughts and actions of who we are not, no matter how habitual they have become and how compelling they seem. Likewise, we must forgive ourselves for the times we seem to default to the constructed self so that we can move on from it and not feel as if we are trapped by it.
Life is an adventure and there is no manual for doing it right yet we all know that in our happiest moments we are living from an innate wisdom, joy and wellbeing. The true self has no opinions on others, no desire to defend ideas, prove its worth or justify its actions. Staying grounded in who we really are means recognising this, letting go of the desire to react in familiar ways, reading our emotions as a guide to how aligned we are in the moment with our wellbeing and forgiving ourselves and moving on when we forget we are able to.